I Want to Change My Life:
How to Overcome Anxiety, Depression and Addiction

I Want to Change My Life: How to Overcome Anxiety, Depression and Addiction. Steven Melemis MD PhD

WINNER of the Gordon Bell Award for Journalism

About the Book

The book contains a five-point plan for change. It will help you identify what you need to change, and give you the coping skills to achieve your goals.

Discover why stress and negative thinking are important causes of anxiety, depression, and addiction. You will learn new techniques to reduce your stress. Do you think that things have to be perfect and anything less than perfect is failure? Do you dwell on the few negatives, and ignore the many positives in your life? Learn how to overcome this kind of thinking so that you can improve your life.

This book contains a one-month step-by-step program to get you started. If you follow the simple steps laid out in this book, you will change your life and be happier.


  • A new approach to cognitive therapy
  • Stress management and mindful relaxation skills
  • The negative thinking that can lead to anxiety, depression and addiction
  • How and why cognitive therapy works
  • How to write cognitive therapy thought records
  • The causes of anxiety, depression and addiction, and how to recognize the symptoms
  • Treatment and relapse prevention strategies
  • The five rules of recovery from addiction
  • The missing step in most self-help plans
  • The science behind mind-body relaxation
  • How your thinking determines your mood
  • Overcome anxiety and panic attacks
  • Post acute withdrawal and how to survive it

Book Reviews

I work in the addiction field, and have been looking for a book that simplifies the issues, and provides an action plan for change. This is it. It covers everything and explains it too. It is incredible. A Must Read. By Redhead

I use this book many times every week. I reference material for our residential clients and use it as a teaching tool in my classes. Very good book. Very useful book. By Amazon Customer

Works well with groups or individuals. This will be used frequently by me. I just lent it to one of my co-workers. One of the best which I have read recently. By Melissa G. Medeiros

This is an excellent book. I use it to facilitate change in my clients who struggle with anxiety and depression. Dr. Melemis writes with intelligence, sincerity and compassion. I find it clearly written and easy to follow. Helps to facilitate positive change in one's life. By Caryn Miller

Wonderful publication. A very valuable addition to my research library. Very informative and easy reading. Extremely pleased with this purchase. Highly recommend to others. Wonderful Book. By Gwendolyn Dorsey - WPI Philosophy Writer

I was assigned this book for a psych class and loved it. While I found that the prescription for daily meditation might not be completely reasonable for my lifestyle I think that he does a great job of taking away the "hocus pocus" of meditation. The points about negative thinking were also life changing! Very insightful. By Eleanor Tansley

More Reviews

More book reviews on how the book can help with anxiety, depression, addiction, and coping skills.


"This book is so clearly and beautifully crafted that just reading it reduces tension. Dr. Melemis has taken a complex subject and distilled it into pure therapeutic magic. Put simply: this book will heal you."
- Hugh Prather, author of Notes to Myself

"When treating the problems of life, put this book in the first-aid kit."
- A. James Giannini, MD, FCP, DFAPA, FRSM
Director, Substance Abuse Services, CMHC of Middle Georgia
Formerly: Director, ASC, Yale University
Formerly: Professor, Psychiatry, Ohio State University

"This book could prove very beneficial to many people. I especially like the distinction between stress and tension and the clear instructions on how to engage in the various practices of relaxation."
- Thupten Jinpa, official translator to the Dalai Lama


ISBN 9781897572238, softcover, 276 pages
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The Author

Steven M. Melemis PhD MD is a leading authority in addiction and mood disorders. He served as a Medical Inspector for the College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario, and as Vice-Chair of Addiction Medicine for the Ontario Medical Association. Dr. Melemis has a post-doctoral fellowship from the University of California at Berkeley, and has received the honor of Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine. He regularly gives interviews and lectures in his field.

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Publisher Information

To request a review copy or to contact the author, please write to

Modern Therapies Ltd.
283 Danforth Ave
Suite 370
Toronto ON
M4K 1N2
Email: contact [at] moderntherapies [dot] com

(Reference: www.IWantToChangeMyLife.org)

Table of Contents

1. A Five-Point Plan for Change
--The Problem--
2. Stress and Tension
3. Negative Thinking
--Stress Management and Relaxation--
4. The Key to Relaxation
5. Use Your Body to Relax Your Mind
6. Staying Focused
7. Mindfulness
8. How Relaxation Feels
9. How Mind-Body Relaxation Changes Your Life
10. Helpful Hints
A Summary of How to Relax
--Cognitive Therapy--
11. The Power of Cognitive Therapy
12. Identify Your Negative Thinking
13. Change Your Thinking
14. Combining Cognitive Therapy with Relaxation
15. A One-Month Program for Change
Thought Record Template
16. Begin With Your Self-Esteem
17. Improve Your Health
18. Enjoy Better Relationships
19. Develop Tolerance and Compassion
20. Overcome Anxiety
21. Panic Attacks
22. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
23. How to Recognize Depression
24. The Causes of Depression
25. The Road to Recovery from Depression
26. Understand Addiction
27. The Five Rules of Recovery
28. Relapse Prevention
29. Survive Post-Acute Withdrawal
30. Final Thoughts
About the Author

Last Modified:December 10, 2017